wish me health: Re: [depression-anxiety] What I've noticed he might just want time alone [trigger]

sorry lisa
is he afraid you will leave him? if he won't talk it is hard to say where he is coming from.
if you would like,i could talk to him over the phone. i don't know much,but maybe i could help some way. i know him being sick is making him so much worst.
showing him love might help,but sounds like he really needs help. with his actions i am thinking he might think of suicide.
he might not want you to love him,because of that.
can you tell him this guy by nashville cares what happens to him and yourself.
that man is hurting!! been there myself.
ask him to read this e mail please.
depression can get better.
i have a love for all those who are hurting. I KNOW YOUR HURT!
your buddie lynn

gerald nemecek <nemecek_gerald@yahoo.com> wrote:
He's getting his time. I ASKED (not told) him, could you come with me to dr.s to help me get over this problem, asked do you want to try to work this out etc. One of his friends even asked me, why is he so moody. So finally I did dictate to him. I said if he does not go talk to someone about this, he has till April and I'm leaving. So then he tells me to stay, but he sees nothing wrong. Ok, I give up. I feel I've tried. It's really tiring. Mentally, I'm exhausted. So yeah, he's getting his time. All the time he wants. Alone. I saw him 3 times today, each was because he needed to use the bathroom. Never even acknowledged me. I'm done. So to better times (well not now, I gotta leave for work) But anyhow--- Can't wait for that game! Lynn, got your packer beads!?

lynn griffin <nascarwert@yahoo.com> wrote: hi again
guys need time alone...well most of us. give him some time.
why not get a nite when you 2 are alone. maybe some candles a little supper,and talk,but make sure you both listen. the talking is the easy part,BOTH need to listen to each other.
than maybe you could do something again next week. make a date with your hubby.
show some intrest in what he does,and respect him and he is to respect you.
but try that dating thing. i saw that on dr. joy. with my depression i have had alot of time to watch t.v. lol
date nite you must be alone,no kids.
the big d is the easy way out, find your love all over again.
love you guys
your buddie lynn

gerald nemecek <nemecek_gerald@yahoo.com> wrote:
That's where mine hides, but then he comes in and says I MAKE him sit out there. Never said a word. My life sounds like yours but switched around. Fine, you want to sit out there, don't blame me your hands are froze. but he does. Today, he's in the bedroom, door shut. We never shut the door. I come in with the vacumn say, what are you doing (innocent enough question I thought) Thought maybe I could help him find what he was looking for, and he says, when the hell am I going to mind my own business. Gabbed his coat, went out to the garage, now remember when he comes back in (froze, it's below 0 out there) it's becuase I MADE him go out there! UGHHHH!

Bill Edwards <b.r.edwards@sbcglobal.net> wrote: My 2 cents worth, all guy's aren't grouchy pigs. I agree with lynn, some women are worse. Then there is myself and my wife, we say hi, she goes her way I go mine. lol I made my hide away in the garage, lazyboy TV and refrig. So we don't argue lol. Great life huh ha ha ha.

lynn griffin <nascarwert@yahoo.com> wrote: well well,sounds like you might get mad. my wife thinks we fight...the truth is ..she fights,i am so laid back,not a fighter. but what i will do is try to calm her down. wrong! she still goes off. i had to call 911 on her, they told me to just shut up,don't try to calm her down,soon she stopped yelling. not sure if you are the same way. do you get out of control? you might not be like my wife,she has never been wrong! and i am not kidding,she never says she is sorry. never!
it is had for you and i to talk about this,because we can't tell the tone of voice. just looked like you were really mad by the amount of !!!!!! marks.
try to stay in control.
love you girl,best of luck
your buddie lynn

gerald nemecek <nemecek_gerald@yahoo.com> wrote:
Well, I must be married to a woman then. lol! Even if I admit being wrong (which I sometimes am) Oh great, now I'm going to get kicked out of "women 101" for admitting I was wrong! A typical fight here gets out of control, after everything cools down I'll say something like, sorry, shouldn't have went that far etc, all he'll say is then don't argue with me then. How am I the only one argueing?????! Takes 2! Plus anyway, what I meant was why can't SOME guys, take a trained 3rd party PROFESSIONAL advice? Such as Don't bring up the past, fight fair, read this article, etc. And it's usually the guy who won't follow thru. If they are supposedly making an "effort" to fix things, why don't they?

lynn griffin <nascarwert@yahoo.com> wrote: hey hey hey
from a guys veiw....woman think things are bad because they don't see themselves as being wrong on any thing. i should say i am only speaking from 1 mans point of veiw towards 1 womans pt of veiw. i am the guy that is all wrong,but i get all the support from her family and mine. ask your and his brothers and sisters if you can. as long as both of you are there. this could really be trouble lol better not listen to me any more! lol

Lisa <nemecek_gerald@yahoo.com> wrote:
Why (like Rhonda said) when the therapist recommends something, it's
usually the MAN who won't do it? They act like they are doing you such
a big favor by going, but then never follow thru on the suggestions.
Why even go? Is it to "shut the woman up"? Mine will go, but flat out
lie to the guy. How does he expect any help that way. Then say to
me "ah, I'm not going anymore, the guy is a quack". I'm not saying all
guys, but if you read these posts plus my experience, it's pretty
common.

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